Leavings

I couldn’t find a better image for this post than this small limestone henge in a neighbor’s back yard.

I live a full and active life. In fact, I’m probably more engaged than I’ve ever been, with faith that at least some of my ideas (here are three big ones) will play out in constructive ways over the coming years and decades.

But, at 78 (still a year younger than the current US president), I am also more mortal than ever, and I know it, especially since I figure at least a third of the guys I grew up with are now gone, or ahead of me in the checkout line.

My heart seems fine, but I’ve had an ablation to stop occasional atrial fibrillation. I take blood thinners to prevent another pulmonary embolism (I had a scary one in ’08, but none since). I have a bit of macular degeneration. My genetics are long on longevity (my paternal grandma lived to almost 108), but I have some risk factors as well. The main one, however, is plain old mortality. We’re here for the ride, but the ride ends. And I know that.

Here is another way to look at it: I’m a puppy, meaning I now have the life expectancy of a dog. If I’m a healthy rat dog, like a terrier, I might live to twenty.

So I’ll be devoting more of my bloggings to surfacing valuable lessons and stories left in my care by those now gone, and to making clearer what I’m bringing to generations after mine.

Here is one of the biggest lessons: life really is short. By design, we only get a few dozen years. My 78 went by fast. And each year goes by faster, since it’s a narrower slice of one’s pie of life.

Another way to look at it: Life is exceptional, and death is its most durable feature. Of the carbonate rocks that comprise a quarter of the Earth’s surface, most were once alive or close enough. The limestone in the henge above was living muck before it turned to rock.

My point is that we all need to get out of here. Still, I operate in willful oblivity to the inevitable, because that’s more fun and productive than worrying about it. And being an inveterate creature helps for doing that.



9 responses to “Leavings”

  1. A good piece and good advice, Doc.

    I’m 70, 71 very soon. Eye issues, weight issues, but nothing holding me back from getting better than I currently am…except motivation and getting-off-buttitis.

    I’m not sure what I want to do with my writing. I’m glad you found your writing center. Maybe it will inspire me to find mine.

  2. Doc, thanks for the reminder of this, while a few years behind you I too am thinking about ways to pay forward the stories and learnings from my years.

    Perhaps there are some nuggets if I go digging for them that could prove valuable for others.

    Jim

  3. Doc, I find that as I get older people tend to think of me as past tense. You can hear it in the language they use, things they say.

    I have a lot of legacy I want to leave behind, some of it written, some in software, but most important — working together.

    I’ve been the target of a lot of bigco PR which goes like this — Dave is impossible to work with. This idea follows me everywhere. But actually I’m exceptionally GOOD at working with other people. Look at the things I’ve accomplished, every one of them is built on lots of working with other people. What the corporate trolls really mean is this — they don’t want people to work with me, or *they* don’t want to. Big diff.

    We live in a time where people just don’t want to work with each other. Seems it’s built into our culture, the mythical inventor creating a new mousetrap that the world beats a path to, as they say. It doesn’t work like that. And the communication system we have, that our generation created, emphasizes the individual, and the value of people as a function of the number of followers they have.

    Working together is the most important thing. Not the artifacts we leave behind. All we need to solve our problems is that, imho.

    That’s something we can do even as the old farts that we are. 😉

    1. First, fuck the bigco PR. And PR generally. Also, most of what gets called common wisdom is neither.

      Second, I think people are at their best—at least for creating good new stuff—in small groups, loosely joined. Conversations with work products. And vice versa.

      Third, you are going to succeed in your workings together. I can see and feel it. Just saying.

      Rock on.

  4. John T Hoagland Avatar
    John T Hoagland

    Hey Doc, just sent you a couple of emails
    Being your elder (yeah, by about a month), simpatico

    Working off “stuff” … but slowly
    Finally starting to sell the motorcycle collection
    During the “dark months” (my new name for “winter”) doing scanning and sorting (years of notes and print being digitized)
    Most business interactions now zoom, but still engaged, just few new ventures. OK one, but it’s an outgrowth of prior work

    Health : mostly better than a decade ago. Annual physical and doctor tends to say “well, see you next year”
    Trying to manage diet (down 50lbs over last decade or so), activity and caloric phone apps, workout with trainer 2x a week (lots of stretching, balance, some weights/resistance.

    Chip’s Ahoy (my old boat, as old as us) put away this week, still runs hull speed !!!

    Termed off last non-profit board a year ago

    Still reading several hours a day
    Several “newspapers” along with some “old” stuff
    Found this while cleaning my “archive” (hard copy) now online
    https://archive.org/details/makingofamerica03lafo/page/n9/mode/2up

    Take care and stay in touch

    Ciao
    Chip

  5. An ethos worth emulating. Keep on rocking Doc!

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